Imagine yourself living in a world where the length of a day, duration of daytime and the span of a year is constantly and unpredictably changing. Imagine that even the orbit of your home planet is not steady, but changing over time irregularly, so that even the sky is not constant. Would you be able to develop a proper perception of time and space, given that there are no regularities governing your life?
This thought experiment is important to realize the essential role of regularities and their continuity in our lives as conscious living beings. Although we may not be aware of them, such constancies and regularities and our expectation of them to be there forever are at the heart of our mental constructs. To make my case more clear, I am going to invite you to consider other thought experiments.
If you lived in a place where rain is rare, would you be able to invent dams and devise power generation through rotating turbines? If you lived in a country where electricity is sporadically provided for limited durations, would you be able to create systems that demanded continuity of power in large amounts? For example, would you be able to build trust in the power system and proceed to invent computers and computer controlled systems?
Together, these examples show that in order for us to develop paradigms, make inventions and create worlds, we need the resources to be in sufficient, preferably abundant, amounts and we want them to be available continuously. Without abundance and continuity, it is highly unlikely, if not impossible, for a new concept to immerge and survive based on that resource.
What's more, this situation is not limited to our interaction with and use of the outer world. It also influences our interactions with each other. Take the example of the couple life. The spouse who take the favors of the other for granted and who has developed a sense of trust in the unconditional continuity of those favors is very much prone to committing unacceptable behaviors towards the other. However, a healthy couple life is established on mutual trust and confidence, which feeds a sense of continuity of favors and which brews happiness in the hearts.
The same analysis can also be reflected on the relationship between the children and parents. The children who have unbounded and unconditional confidence in the tolerance and forgiveness of their parents are likely to become spoiled and disrespectful. However, confidence in the mercy and compassion of the parents is a pillar of the healthy psychology for a child at the same time.
These two cases regarding the spouses and the children point at the fact that we need a continuity of love, trust and connection in order to build healthy personalities and societies. However, the same concepts are also at the root of developing abusive personalities.
Interesting enough, we observe the same dynamics and the double-edged sword situation in our interaction with our Creator. Although we may recognize and glorify Him as the One who gives us sustenance and who gives guidance whereby we can find out new resources and techniques, the continuity of these blessings independent of our recognition of their source is a key drive to oblivion to the Merciful Grantor.
"And he entered his garden while he was unjust to himself. He said, 'I do not think that this will perish - ever. And I do not think the Hour will occur. And even if I should be brought back to my Lord, I will surely find better than this as a return.' His companion said to him, in the course of the argument with him: 'Have you disbelieved in He who created you from dust and then from a sperm-drop and then proportioned you [as] a man?' " (18/35-37)
This is why and how the existence and continuity of the blessings in our lives cannot be taken as a measure of the correctness of our actions. This is why and how we must be careful about the voices in our heads and the suggestions of other people, when it comes to trusting the mercy of God or forgetting His wrath while committing actions that incur worldly benefit in violation of the boundaries set by God.
"... let not this world's life deceive you, nor let the archdeceiver deceive you about Allah." (31/33)
And all this is true even when it makes complete sense through a logical justification of our actions that brings benefit in illicit ways, because the human mind is both very creative and rather willfully blind when it comes to justifications.
"... Thus We have made pleasing to every community their deeds..." (6/108)
Having shared these words to raise awareness on a subtle point, I would like to bring the discussion to a sensitive conjunction. Whether we like it or not, the events in our lives and in the life of humanity are going to unfold in ways that may not align with our expectations. Such transformations and alternations at various scales of time are reflective of God's ultimate decree in the story of humanity, which we call history or destiny depending on the context (also see
Alternation of Seasons in God's Attitude). So, the constancy that I have been discussing so far is not there all the time. Some things change so slowly that we take them for granted, yet others change rather regularly according to certain dynamics, and still others are manifestations of indeterminism. So, our trust in things of this world, be them natural phenomena or people's attitudes, is subject to shaking. When our trust is shaken, it is not as easily restored as it was built.
Now remember that a believer connects anything and everything with the Lord of the worlds who is aware and in control of things and events. So, when a believer's trust in people is shaken due to excruciating sufferings, their trust in God is also put in trial. In other words, just like all of our mental and psychological dynamics have a correspondence in our relationship with our Creator, the shaken trust to the existence and people also reflects an impact on the trust in God. And this state of uncertainty brought by the absence of trust hinders any efforts of recovery, because now there is the fear of getting caught unprepared. Such brittle mindset is especially true of the younger generations who are in the construction stage of their lives. So, given a shaken trust in God and a fear and unwillingness to restore that trust, what can be done?
Each person is different, and so, the answer to this question for each person will have its own unique aspects. Here, I would like to share a few points that may be the common factor for all. I would be glad if you included your suggestions in the comments.
Creating a cozy home in winter
When God brings winter, we cannot stop it. It comes. However, He has given us the urge and power to make homes where we can protect ourselves and those around us from the harsh conditions of winter. Similarly, when dramatic devastations occur, even if we cannot stop the avalanche of events, we can at least try to create a micro climate of stability and safety, where the youngsters can continue their faith journey.
Not digging the graves
When someone dies, no matter how much you love them, no matter how much they have done to people, their body must be buried. Clinging to the dead body, or digging out the corpse from the ground in order to not lose sight of that loved one is not going to do any good, but bring more harm. After all, death is the will of God, even if there are apparent causes leading to the event. Similarly, when the believers are shaken through events that demolish their efforts, instead of lamenting desperately and trying to restore the old, they must focus on coming alive renewed. And the same must be taught to the youngsters so that they can take lessons from the past mistakes and develop skills for renewal.
Death awareness management
No one has a guarantee to live forever, and death is the most certain thing in this life. Yet, we forget it. Even a person who is diagnosed with terminal cancer and given a 6 month life until death thinks about the death at the end of those 6 months, when death can actually come much earlier due to whatever reason. In short, in our lives, our awareness of death needs a bit of management. This situation is similar to the loss of trust in the continuity of blessings from God. Those blessings can come to an end at any time due to any apparent reason, but when things go as they are, we forget about this subtlety and give in to an illusion of unconditional continuity. We come to our senses only when things start breaking apart. However in reality, what is constant throughout those events is the omnipresent and all encompassing will, power, wisdom and mercy of God. When we build that illusion of unconditional continuity of blessings in our minds, we are sticking to only one name of God, and so, we are actually obscuring our full vision of God. What is needed is an awareness of God through His various names, not just one. Needless to say, awareness is not awareness unless it is accompanied by relevant actions.
Tracing the mutations
The cells in a living organism has mechanisms to check if the genetic material is conserved. If it is mutated, there are two options. If the corrupt part can be fixed and the cell can bring itself back to healthy condition, this is done. If such restoration is not possible, then the cell drives itself to a controlled death. If we establish an analogy between the genetic material and the Quran, we can say that believers must constantly check their integrity through a direct relationship with the Quran. When such unmediated connection is compromised, and intermediaries are placed between the believers and the Quran, then successive mutations and mistakes unfolding like an avalanche are unavoidable. So, be them young or adult, believers must reunite with the Quran in order to restore their trust with God, because He is the guarantor of anything and everything else.